Monthly Archives: September 2019

From the 1940’s: “How to Behave and Why?”/Add-On to “Be a Good Memory”

Hi Friends:

Recently, we featured the quote about “Be a Good Memory, which led to the most recent post about “The Kind of Parent I Don’t Want to Be.”

Now, from the same folder which contained the “Be a Good Memory Quote,” I discovered this book review, from a book written way back in the 1940’s, by author Munro Leaf, which continues that same theme about “Are most of the people I know glad that I am here?”

Part of me feels that this should reside in the “I Remember” category, and it is unfortunate that I feel that way. However … “I Remember” when books like this were “must reading.” It was popular because … and, yes, I’m going to write this … It was popular because there was a time when a book like this reinforced what we already were taught at home. We understood the book because “that’s just what Mom and Dad have been telling us all along …”

I find it remarkable, reading this book review now, that the book seems to be aimed at parents as much as their children. That … are you ready for this in 2019? … As important as it is for children to “act right,” it is just as important for parents to “act right.” Imagine that? Parents are expected … or, should that be parents “were” expected to act right? The author of this book, Munro Leaf, seems to pinpoint the importance of parent’s behavior … perhaps suggesting that the behavior of parents could influence the behavior of their children?

See how this all ties in?

I discovered this review for the book “How to Behave and Why” in the folder from years ago, and it could be several reviews I had combined. To give proper credit, I’ve included the link to the book on Amazon. Here is how the book is described:

“’How to Behave and Why’ is a timeless classic published in 1946 by Munro Leaf, well-known author of another timeless classic, Ferdinand. Leaf suggests, “The two biggest questions to ask ourselves in life, at any age, are: “Are most of the people I know glad that I am here? Am I glad that I am here, myself?” Because after all, getting along with and being loved and trusted by others is key to happiness and success in life.
“How to Behave and Why” explains to kids that to make good friends and keep them you have to be honest, fair, strong, and wise, “and all that isn’t so easy.”
He reminds kids that learning to live a happy life is a lot like sailing in a boat with other people. You have to learn the ropes before you can command the ship “and help to make the world a better place for all of us.”
First published in 1946, Munro Leaf’s “How To Behave And Why” gives touchingly sincere yet gently funny lessons in Honesty, Fairness, Strength, and Wisdom. Originally intended for the very young, but with meaning for us all, “How To Behave and Why” is a true classic, charmingly illustrated with childlike drawings, and with a timeless message. It is a sure guide for teaching children (and adults) how to behave.”

To check out the link to the book, I looked at current reviews (from today, 2019):

In her Amazon book review, Karin Snelson wrote, “A satisfying reflection of a time when what was right and wrong seemed more black and white. (All ages).”

By the way … in looking at comments about the book, not all were favorable. At least one person did not like the use of the word “stupid” in the book.

I don’t know about you, but … I sure have done some “stupid” things in my life.
Including my adult life.
Maybe … I’ve done more “stupid” things in my adult life than in my childhood … I don’t know …
I just know I’ve done “stupid” things in both.

Here’s the link to the book on Amazon:

How to Behave and Why?

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The Kind of Parent I Don’t Want to Be

Hi Friends:

This is kinda, sorta, springing off of our last post about “Be a Good Memory.”

There have been hundreds, maybe thousands, of books which try to “help you be a good parent,” or “better parent.” To help you become the parent you would like to be.

You know I am going to say that there is only one real source for how to become a “better” anything, and that is The Book. Period.
That won’t change.

For the context of this post … there isn’t much out there which writes of “What Kind of Parent You Don’t Want to Be.”

I tried … diligently … to search, online, for “How Many Books on Parenting Have Been Written?” or “How Many Books on Parenting are Written Each Year?”
I couldn’t find the answer, only a list of “Best” or “The Only Parenting Books You Need,” and so forth.

I did find out that nearly 10 Billion “self-improvement” books are sold each year, but I could not find the stats on “Parenting Books.”

So … I’ve had this one brewing for a while, and wanted to share it now:

I won’t go into any specifics about things I’ve witnessed, or what I’ve seen or heard “go on” at teacher/parent conferences … things like yelling, screaming, a parent showing up in pajamas, the word “intoxicated” being mentioned, things being thrown, and so on …

So … Here is “The Kind of Parent I Don’t Want to Be:”

The parent, or parents, are called in to the School for a “Parent/Child Conference.”
At the end … after the parent/parents have left … leaving only the teachers to summarize “what just happened” … one of the teachers says, out loud … what the others are thinking:

“Well, that certainly explains a thing or two.”